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Married with someone that we love
is everyone’s life goal just like for patent. We do not want to marry with a stranger
we meet in the street. For years ago, in some old tradition in many countries,
arranged marriage is just like tradition for family. Here are some perspectives
of arranged marriage to look back. It is for sure we get married to make our
life is in happiness and peace. Having together with someone that we love is
just amazing. It would be thrilling if finally we married with someone that we really
love to. Bet people want that so. We suppose to have live with joyful and calm
also stronger after married. In the contrary, when we live with someone that we
just met in couple weeks and we suppose to love forever with him and what do
you feel about it?
Some old fashioned parents would
choose a bridegroom for their daughter because they think he is a good man for
her daughter. Yes, of course it is a good man for the parents, but we cannot
say so for their daughter. Some arranged marriages are successful but some also
fail. Fail doesn’t always mean divorced it may cause in some problems. Some
arranged married couple would grow love everyday and they become to love each
other. But some for most may not grow affection or love to each other.
Ironically, because of failed arranged married parents cannot give complete affection
and example toward their children which is it will also affect to their
children’s psychology.
Arranged marriage should a legal
rape for some free thinking women. We should know that we create generations which
are born in affections not in hatred, anger, and egoism. We live to learn
respect and love. How could we live in some trapped plan of nightmare happening
everyday for all night long and all day long.
Are we sinful to neglect parents’ plan to have us in arranged marriage?
We know, It is quite a big problem for women who live in such tradition. For some
tradition, it is believed that disobeying parent’s plants to marry in arranged
marriage would make women in life’s trouble. Many sanctions in family which are
quite stressful and people in family would never stop labeling us. It is a
quite tradition of bullying by the way since old parents also had arranged
marriage.
It is like wearing clothes, we
need to fit the clothes first before we buy. Arranged marriage is not good
solution for someone who eager to live in peaceful way. Legal rape is for
arranged marriage. Why old fashioned parents never buying our reasons, you know
there are some possible answers for that as the first is because they ever had the
same arranged marriage before and it is including a kind of bullying, the
second is they think their chosen one deserves to us and would bring us the
better life and the third is old fashioned parents never understand human
psychology at all.
It cannot be guaranteed we will
live happier with the one that parents choose for us. It is a legal rape this tradition.
This is barbaric and a legal rape created by tradition. We own our life not
others even parents. We step this alone after marriage we should manage that
well. Arranged marriage is still happening now in some cases in Asia country.
Labeling exists in family who disobey the traditions. Tradition is like religion.
Do not be hesitate to get out from arranged marriage is the one of the best
decisions and believe that power of love can change everything!
